need serious advice pt 2

quick run down: im 18 hes 23. worked together and now dating bc im in college and it works.

told mom and step dad. they were ok with it. okay now i will wait to tell dad like i want to go step by step until im ready.

somehow mom changes her mind and threatens to tell my dad. well, she already did. and now my bf’s managers know too (who are best friends with my dad)

so my bf told me that my dad knows

but my mom is threatening me to break up with him or she will tell dad

but she already told him....

i saw dad today and he acted fine like nothing happened

but i will see him again tomorrow and idk how to react. idk what to say. i think dad wanted mom to tell me to break up with my bf so dad doesnt have to say anything.

i cant just let this go.. i want to prove to them that i am independent and i can do school and this. but mom doesnt like the age gap (even tho she was 17 and dad was 25 when they dated but whatever)

how do i deal with this? i mean mom is saying that dad might make me move to a closer and cheaper college. but is that realistic? would my dad do that to me?

i just want the trust and the chance to show them i am capable and mature enough (and my bf is too) for this relationship.

i want to keep dating and not break up, even tho i am scared of what that will cause.

any advice? idk what im even asking. but i just want to convince my mom and my dad that i want independence and that im becoming an adult now, and that i can be mature.