Anniversary Fail🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️

Today is my husband and I’s two year of marriage anniversary, and approx three years of togetherness anniversary. I was so excited for today since we’ve been so focused on work and house tasks that we haven’t really done anything fun together in a while. Finances are tight so I wasn’t expecting much. Seriously, we talked about what we were going to do today and all I asked for was his time, a pizza, and one free outing like a hike or museum trip.

And I woke up happy and excited. I worked out and showered before he woke up. And when he woke up, he was already pissy and angry. He went to go move his car and there was a parking ticket today of all days 🤦🏻‍♀️ and on top of that, when he tried to move it... it wouldn’t turn on. Yes, he has every reason to be annoyed. We had just spent 2K on the car to be fixed less than a month ago and the mechanic refuses to refund us.

And now he’s sitting at his computer trying to figure out how to make more money and telling me to stop spending money from now on. Like... I have the same clothes since forever. Shoes from highschool. And I only spend money on groceries. We get into arguments about this a lot because he treats me like he’s being so generous with me when in reality the groceries are for both of us and I’m the one who’s cooking it 🤷🏻‍♀️

I really was hoping today would be different. Like I didn’t ask for a day on a rented boat. I didn’t ask for new clothes. I didn’t even ask for a fancy dinner. I was seriously just asking for a day that any couple could have had on any regular day at all. And i still didn’t get it 😫😭😭

Any advice on how I should handle this or try and make it special again?? He’s currently ignoring my wishes, hunched over his laptop working. I told him today was supposed to be just about us and he said “yeah happy anniversary, here’s a ticket and a car that doesn’t work for you” and walked away

I’m bout to go have an anniversary by my f$&!ing self. And I know by the way these events happened you probably think we’re poor, but that’s what irritates me the most... we’re not!!! We have 20K in the bank right now. He just wants it to last forever since he doesn’t like his job (real estate agent) and doesn’t want to have to go back until next summer. But he can go back sooner and it doesn’t have to be this way. We could afforded for today to be just about us but he puts his emotions first and not mine. Brb I’m bout to go enjoy a pizza by my damn self

UPDATE:

We decided to go to the local zoo and spent a few hours there. It was so good to get out of the house finally and talk to my husband about something other than work. Had such a good day despite him being kind of an ass this morning 😂 and hopefully the night will be even better 🔥🔥🔥