This time feels different.....

I'm slowly falling out of love with my husband and he doesn't even care enough to help change it. I know he realizes it. This pregnancy has helped me realize a lot.....he swore it wouldn't be as stressful (on his part)as the last one, but its been so much worse. Starting when I was 4 weeks.... I went grocery shopping, he chose to stay at home...which I didnt mind because he works 3rd shift... 7pm-4am...he usually sleeps all day anyway so i was like whatever. Anyways, when I got home i asked him to help me with the groceries that needed to be put away. He literally said "I don't feel like doing all that!" As he was walking up the stairs. We argue so much more, he has only come to 2 out of a million doctors appointments (which might i add I made him promise to come to the ultrasound and the last one he came to last month he had an atittude the whole time. He didn't come to the one today. 😒💁 No suprise. Idk i know im ranting, but i really would like more from someone im supposed to spend the rest of my life with. We spend no time together and im a SAHM so theres no excuse even though he comes up with one everytime. He doesn't help with my son unless I get on his case... I'll say he probably changes 1-3 diapers a week & never during the weekday. The weekends he sleeps all day. Then spends all of his time on the game when hes up. We've only been on two dates ALL YEAR no matter how much I keep asking for us to go on more. One day on our anniversary (he slept all day until 7 and then we ended up leaving the house at 9pm to a hibachi grill) the other date was when we went to see the joker...only because he wanted to see that movie...i have stresssed what i need in this relationship/marriage for almost 3 years and I am so exausted...i mean its wayyyyyyy wayyy more. Am i wrong for wanting more of an effort from him? I try to be underatanding of his scheduale. Take my son out the house for a few hours just to make sure he gets his rest and isnt stressed. and my daughter from previous relationship is in school and after program until 6pm. His other 2 kids live with their moms. I just feel like im more of a roomate than a wife. I moved all the way back to MI so he could be with his kids where i have no family or friends and his family isnt too "friendly". (Church reasons) I've sacraficed so much. I really have and there is honestly SO MUCH MORE but I don't even feel like writing it all. I feel like I just deserve better and I want better. I just don't know what else to do. We only have swx every blue moon and when we do I dont feel anything for him. My kitty dont rawr if you know what I mean.....I feel like hes only here for reasons other than our marriage and being with me....like "comfortable" with the living situation. I guess.... I'm 27 and hes 26 and at this point I feel like I've wasted so much time and I will keep wasting time if i stay with him. I'm 23+5 with our babygirl and I feel like I've complelty lost myself over the years. I have thought about the way I feel many times before, but this time feels different...like I just dont have anymore hope that our relatikinship can be brought back to life.