Spouse over kids ?!?

Honestly how do you guys feel about this ? I seen this topic pop up so much and while I’m not married, I feel strongly that depending on how you view marriages and whether or not your Christian, your spouse should come before your children. Please sit and think about this before you just comment I really don’t wanna argue I just wanna know your view point of this situation. A lot people don’t agree but I honestly do and I can explain why later.

👻UPDATE👻

Let me also add, your children are going to leave once they’re older my whole point in posting this was to see who you will put first. I’m not saying this as in “oh there’s a house fire I have to get my kids first” of course you both go for the kids as they have never truly lived life. I was saying this to say when you get married and the kids start to come along, people tend to lose sight of what they got married for and WHO they married. Putting your kids first is all good but understand and hear me when I say your kids are EVERYTHING But they are NOT YOUR EVERYTHING. (This also tends to create children who are self entitled and thinks the world revolves on them and then some.)Losing sight in your spouse causes problems and when you start to have problem within your marriage everything goes down hill from there. It’s good to make sure you’re showing your children what a happy home looks like, so they can grown to hopefully do the same thing. So me asking this question wasn’t intended to make it seem like I’m saying “f*** the kids”, it was to simply see how a lot of you operated. Also I’m very aware of situations of the mother or your mother putting a man first but in this situation I’m talking about a real man someone who cares and supports his family, not someone touching on their child and the mother is just sweeping it under the rug. Also understand a child can’t pay bills, can’t protect you, and cannot keep you safe, make sure that your child knows that who actually runs the house without being overbearing and just downright an asshole about it.

Nor am I talking just someone who completely neglects their child.

(I will further explain if I see more if needed because I swear this goes over a lot of people’s head and I just want to know others view point.)

🥀UPDATE🥀

A situation of where you would choose. You can think beyond this it’s just the first thing I thought of.

Say for instance your child asks their father for some cookies (or think beyond that like he’s bringing a girlfriend over for the first time and wants her to spend the night) the dad says no and then he goes to you knowing that you will end up saying yes (this is just a scenario) the father feels like you’re stepping on his toes and not on his side because he already told the kid no. Instead of just talking to your husband you up and decide that your child can do whatever and his father word means nothing. In situations like these it’s just best to talk with your husband or wife first so you both can have a firm answer as to what a child can and cannot do. When you’re leaving your partner out the loop hole it causes many problems and honestly it’s not something to wanna go through being that it is so small.