Facing the monster *update*

Just found out that my husband has been messaging other women and about to confront him....

**update**

Hi ladies,

So my husband doesn’t seem to understand that his phone is connected to the family iPad. So I’m happily pinning away on Pinterest when I noticed Snapchat on there. My husband deleted his Snapchat awhile ago, so I just found it weird that he didn’t mention he had it again. So, I open it. And he’s talking to some girl from Oklahoma about things one should be talking to his wife about.

I casually call my husband (he works the night shift so he was heading into work) and ask if there was anything he wanted to tell me and he tells me no. I ask him again, and tell him that this is the time to tell me anything and everything which he again tells me no. So I ask him why did he download Snapchat and fail to mention it to me. He tells me that he just wanted it again, and I repeat myself for a third or fourth time if there was anything else which he says no. At this rate I’m boiling because just tell the damn truth

As I’m boiling to the point of no return, he finally admits he messaged a girl. I say “fuck you” and hang up and call my mother in law in tears.

I have to say, I am blessed to have a mother in law who is a saint. We are really close, and I can talk to her about anything. My husband and I talk to her about everything and anything because he’s really close to his mom as well.

Anyways, my mother in law is at a loss of words, and is talking me off the ledge. My husband is calling me repeatedly, and I’m crying to the point of snot is just everywhere 😑 I finally get off the phone with my mother in law, and answer my husband. He’s on his way home and asks that I sit on the phone with him til he gets home.

I sit on the phone with him, not saying a word but crying til he finally shows up. I just ask for his phone, and I message the girl on Snapchat and let her know he has a wife. He then deletes Snapchat. I ask him if he remembers the day he went and picked out my engagement ring, and how he felt. He tells me that he does remember, and he still feels that way. I then ask him if he was sure about that and then ask if he wasn’t just in love with the *thought* of the pretty wife, nice house with our dogs instead of actually being in love. He tells me loves me with all his heart.

At this point, he’s crying his eyes out. He admits he has a problem. A little back story, my husband and I met on Bumble, where you swipe til you see someone you like and then you match. So, that brings me back to what my husband says.. my husband admits that he misses the thrill of swiping and talking to “mysterious” women.

I sit there dumbfounded. My husband have a great sex life, we have a great social life. So I’m surprised. I wish he would of just came to me and explained his feelings. We talk about a lot of things, and normally he doesn’t have any issue coming to me to talk.

I know that many will encourage me to leave him. However, I’m not willing to give up my marriage just yet. My husband has agreed to go speak a counselor, and we are going to go from there. Thank you for all the kind thoughts, wishes, and advice.