Im scared of being a single mom?

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I have 3 small kids under the age of 3. My husband is abusive to me so i have to leave him. He told me i will regret it if i leave him, because he will change for the new woman, it will be very hard for me, and no one will want me. Ill be forever single he said. 
I dont have my license yet, i dont have a good paying job, i havent finished college, im 24 and i married him at 19. He didnt let me work or go to school and want me to fully depend on him. Now im fucked up. 
Sigh, any encouragement stories? I somewhat feel like i will regret l :(

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He says shit like that so you get scared and don’t leave him. Its not true though. Plenty of women have left awful relationships with kids and become extremely successful in their lives both family and career wise. In truth he’s scared that you will do better without him and thats why he lies and tries to scare you from leaving.

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You will not regret it, sounds like you’ll be able to live a normal life. He’s obviously very controlling and manipulative, and his mind games are making you believe what he says. Get your family and friends to help you where they can and get the heck out of there. Do not let him trick you into not going to mediation/court for custody/visitation and child support. Get that stuff on paper. Good luck, you can do this mama!

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You should never stay in a abusive relationship, he is saying you will never find someone else as a way of controlling you and making you think he is the only man who wants (this is emotional abuse) You are 24 you have plenty of time to go to school and not every career requires college, and if you divorce he will have to pay child support and maybe alimony depending on your state.

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Hey there, I know it's an old post but,
I'm 24 years old with an almost 7m old son.
I was an abusive relationship with his father for 4 years and got out.
Listen,
1. Abusers like that never change, no matter what .
2. They say shit to manipulate you 
3. Leave for your kids 
4. It will be fine, it will be hard but you'll be okay 
Honestly, I'd do anything for my son and him being around an abusive person is so detrimental to his health. I will not let my son grow up scared, I will not let my son see those traits and learn from them, I will not put him in that position that he would see me cry and depressed.
I'm showing my son how brave I was and am, I'm showing my son how it is to be in a loving safe environment.

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Children witnessing abuse are traumatized and that affects their brain development. If you can't leave him for yourself leave him for your kids' sake.

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I lived that. I had to get a job and learn to provide for my three kids. I had to stick to my decisions and be strong. He ended up going to prison because I didn’t cover for him anymore. I worked and worked and moved up in my job. 
I’ve NEVER regretted kicking him out. The first night he was gone I’ll never forget I felt so amazing. I didn’t realize I would feel that way. It’s been 7 years and we’re healthy and good.

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Mine threatened to take our daughter and make sure I never saw her again. They love playing on our fears. The assholes. Do you have family you can stay with until you get back on your feet? I had to live with my parents for a year before I could afford my own place again. Look into low income housing and as much state help as you can get (or the equivalent of if you don't live in the states). It's tough, but totally doable!

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You can do this without him. He is trying to make you feel that you can stand in your own two feet. It’s ok to be scared but you will be able to do this on your own. What family or friends do you have that made help you?

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1. He's not gonna change.
2. You'll be fine.
3. It's gonna be hard, really hard but you can do it momma. 
My mom was in a bad relationship for almost 15 years. My mom met him when I was 5 yo, she was a single mom and she was struggling with money. He came home and he started to abuse me but my mom hasn't do anything, so I leave the house. I always said to my mom that together we can make good things to survive but she never listened, so i stopped talking with her.
He never let her go with the family, he was mentally abusive with her and even he pushed her against the walls and the bed and trying to rape her. 
I cannot talk to you as the woman who was in a bad relationship but I'm the child who was in the middle, and I bet your babies are scared all the time, maybe now they are too small to understand but they will grow up and if you continue with him they will be harm too. I'm thankful because my momma tried and finally leave him almost 6 years ago, it was hard and she needed a lot of help to heal but she did it for me and my siblings. Now she has met a guy who really cares about her and she's happy. 
Do it for your babies, I can tell you that as a child we always need a mom to trust. Him is not what a father should be, you'll be better by yourself. 
Look for help, you're not alone.
I send to you a lot of hugs and love.

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I have gone through this personally but I follow this incredible women on Instagram I would reach out to her. She’s her story is similar to yours and she always she’s there if you need a hand to escape.

Im scared of being a single mom?

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