At the end of January I ended my relationship of 2.5 years. He moved out and two days after we broke up I started miscarrying. I didnt know I was pregnant and didnt think I was miscarrying because I was on the Depo shot at the time. He was harassing me 24/7 trying to get me to take him back and switching between being hostile and manipulative. Well 10 days later I finally went to the ER where the doctor confirmed that I had a miscarriage and I blocked my ex that day.

I never told him because I very strongly blamed him in the beginning. I was also worried about him attempting suicide so I kept it to myself and just cut off contact.

Recently I've been moving through the blocked emotions surrounding my miscarriage and I have started feeling like it might be time to tell him.

He wanted to get me pregnant although I didnt want to, so I believe he would want to know that he had a baby and what happened to her and I.

The main reason I am hesitant is, I am afraid of him. I am afraid he will use this information to try to re-enter my life. I am afraid that he will do something crazy and blame me for it. I am afraid that he will find out where I live now and confront me.

But I also believe that fear is no good reason to do or not do anything. I believe he deserves to know and to have the opportunity to mourn and honor our daughter, because after all, she was/is his too.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.