Anybody else’s relationship feel off after having baby?

Question

I had my baby 6 weeks ago. Ever since then my partner and I just feel off. Barely have time with each other. I SAH and he works mon-fri. Even on weekends when we do spend time together it feels like we aren’t if that makes sense lol. Anybody else go through this? How did you get that bond back? We love each other and our baby to death but we just feel off and different. 🤔

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My son is 15 months and hubby and I are still trying to not feel like co parents/roomies. My son has a different story as he had heart surgery and a lot of other medical issues so we’ve been really stressed out but its been rough. I know we will get there someday just have to keep reminding myself of that.

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I think this is very common with a newborn. I wouldn't worry. It will pass as you both adjust to the new normal & your hormones calm down.

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Yes, after we had our first child, my SO and I went through a phase where it felt like we were just co-parenting roommates. It was terrible! For me, personally I craved more physical affection (cuddling mostly, not sex) and my SO isn’t really a cuddly guy so that made it hard at first. But now we’ve kinda found a compromise of sitting together on the couch where I can lay my legs across his lap, or I’ll lay in bed to watch tv and he’ll sit beside me either drawing or on his phone, but there’s still some physical contact with our legs. I really just had to communicate my needs to him and finally he needed to acknowledge and reciprocate those feelings. It was a long bumpy road, but we’re finally back to a good place with each other and feel like a couple again and not roommates.

Anybody else’s relationship feel off after having baby?

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