What he think is showing emotion

So I’m having a huge fight wit the hubby in regards to showing emotions and sex life.

He thinks because he randomly rubs my breast or in passing walking by flicks or flaps my breast that that’s a way of showing me attn..

I HATE IT .. told him numerous times that it doesn’t turn me on or makes me feel anyway it actually gets on my damn nerve..

His way of starting is saying “come on let’s do it” major turn off .. we are not 15 yrs old..

Like I get no romance, no extra effort.. When it time for me to please n pleasure him I’m al bout it taking time doing it for way to long..

Plus I’m dealing with a lot body n health wise so it has affected my drive n need however I feel he doesn’t get it cus he isn’t going through anything.

I have had 3 major surgeries due to health n female issues and failed Ivfs ttc at medical old age of 40.. Some days I just wanna cry it out cus I feel depressed n less than as a woman not being able to have a child easily. I now got him on my back bout emotions and constant sex..

I WANNA SCREAM