Drama with the In-laws

Our daughter is 6 months old and the first grandchild on both my side and my husbands side of the family. She is very well loved which is great but we have been having problems with my in-laws. This could be long so bare with me...

My MIL takes my daughter on tues/wed when I work and my mom gets her fridays. It has been a battle from day 1 that my MIL won’t give up time with my daughter. No big deal, she loves her. That’s great. She is retired and my mom is not. My mom only has availability to help me with my daughter on Fridays due to her being a preschool teacher and working mon-thurs.

It’s a constant battle of entitlement. My MIL gets upset if I ever take my daughter away from her on the days she cares for her. She claims she retired so that she could help care for her and they took a hug pay cut to do it.. blah blah. I never asked them to do it. Anyways...

I want both grandmas to see my daughter. I had originally agreed to working tues-thurs when coming back from maternity leave but was given the opportunity to work fridays instead and that way my mom could have a day with her. My MIL was very upset that I took one of her days away... boo hoo.

My mom is very busy and overwhelmed with her current work schedule and wants to change her schedule next school year. If she changes she’ll need to work mon, wed, and fri. I thought maybe days could be switched so my mom had her Tuesday’s and my MIL wed/fri.

I asked my MIL if she could do it and she shot it down. Was trying to suggest I switch my schedule so that she didn’t have to change anything and possibly get more time with her.

I’m feeling so fed up and upset about the whole thing. She is taking care of MY child. I shouldn’t have to work my work schedule around HER. She takes care of our daughter while I work. It’s so stupid.

There’s so much more to it but I’m at wits end of what to do. What should I do? My MIL basically wants to parent my child it feels like and I’m so angered by it. We’ve had conversations but I can’t get through to her. It’s exhausting. HELP!