Siking my self out a bit....

Getting closer to 20 weeks I’m getting a bit nervous. I have been blessed to this point without complications. But I am an extremely high risk, Lupus patient, who tested positive for Antiphosphilid syndrome at the beginning of my pregnancy, so I have a very high chance of preeclampsia and other complications. The medications I’m on for my disease will likely send me in to very preterm labor.... My doctors say after 20 weeks I’ll be monitored very closely because that’s when all of these complications can start to happen.

I have friends with some birth horror stories. I keep googling but can’t find many answers...

Can anyone tell me what to ask in emergencies? I DO NOT WANT A C SECTION. I understand if it’s last resort. But I know people who have had small complications, said no they’d like to keep trying, and got taken away anyways. And I do not want to be one of them.

Is there questions to ask when they say we’re going to take you into a C section before deciding if you should actually go?