Disowned because of my engagement ??

In my 19 years of living, I’ve always been too good at disappointing my mom (it feels that way anyways). However, this has been the worst. I got engaged last Sunday to my now fiancé of two years, who I’ve known since I was 15. Yes, I know 19 is a young age to get engaged, but we aren’t getting married immediately, we are planning on a long engagement. We have a plan. It’s gonna we a long engagement. She was pissed, even though she got married right after high school. She asked and said so many things. “How does his mom feel about it?” She’s happy for us. Why wouldn’t she be? “You have to get your shit together.” My shit is together and has been together since I was 17. I pay for everything on my own, other than me still being on her insurance. “When and how are you gonna tell my mom?” My plan was to tell everyone else on Sunday night at dinner but as it turned out, I didn’t have to. My sister already knew, who told my cousin and my other sister. My mom told my aunt, who told my uncle. My cousin told the rest of my cousins. The only people left to tell, is my grandparents, who are going to have a coronary. I stopped by my mom’s today before work and she wouldn’t even look at me or speak to me. The only thing she said to me is “hey” when I walked in the door. She was being a total bitch last night at dinner. I’m going to my grandmas tomorrow to get it over with and tell her and my grandpa about it so I can finally tell the rest of the world. I feel disowned by my family. My fiancé’s family has always been more welcoming than my own family since we got together but this time it’s different. My mom can never take this back. I got engaged, and that was her reaction. She didn’t even congratulate me. She didn’t even say she was happy for me. He also feels so uncomfortable around her now ever since I told him about it and he’s never felt that way around her. We’re at a loss. We’re engaged and we shouldn’t feel worried or scared to tell people about it, let alone family. I’m so upset. My mom has always been this way towards me and a lot of it has to do with the fact that I’m just like my biological dad. I’m at a total loss. 😞

I just needed to vent.