How would you handle this?

Ugh. My husband always says I can’t fight back with him because he pays my bills and puts food on my plate and only tries to make me smile. So I do work with him in the business and I do earn money as well. But obviously he is the main breadwinner. The problem I have is that he calls me names like “stupid bitch, whore, stupid, dumb, disgusting”...the list goes on...I’ve become numb to his name calling because I have heard it so often. He also always calls me weak. So I used to never fight back. But now I do and will tell him to shut the f up and call him a mother fucker. I know I shouldn’t but I can’t handle being walked all over anymore and that he thinks he can treat me however he wants because he pays for things . He also says I have a manly ego and act like a man when I fight back. I hate how he always distinguishes how a certain gender should act. Please be positive . This is so hard 😔😩