Should I accept a gift for my daughter?

Question

Long story short, I was in a DV situation with my child’s father.. he came home drunk and pushed me and I called because I don’t put up with that shit.. because of the situation I ended up homeless with my kids.. I was couch hopping and staying in hotels.. which was horrible! Worst experience of my life..
Of course he lied to his mom and told her it was all me.. even though he ran from the police (because he was guilty).
She blamed everything on me, saying it was all my fault and basically said I deserved it.. since then she hasn’t even checked in on us (her grandkids included) didn’t even wish my daughter a happy 1st bday.. offered no support or help.. 
she randomly texted me asking if she can buy my daughter a Christmas gift....not my son? Like what? 
My first instinct is to tell her to fuck off and I’m not accepting anything from her at all!! 
Is that bad? Am I keeping stuff from my daughter because of my own feelings? I don’t think she even needs a bunch of things.. definitely not from someone who doesn’t care for us

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I say no only because then she's gonna want to see your daughter one day and use the fact that she's gotten her something as some way to justify that she should be able to see her. I also feel like only getting one child something is absolutely wrong and so it's a no. That's just me though. She's toxic and if she hasn't ever cared about you and the kids because she chose to side with her abusive son and victim blame then she doesn't need to bring that energy around your kids. Seems fishy to me that she's trying to come around now. Of course it's completely up to you but if it were me I wouldn't feel comfortable with it because she's gonna somehow use it as an excuse later to bring drama or something in to your life.

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She’s toxic there’s no reason to even let her back in.

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I personally wouldn't accept it or even open that box. I'll keep them away from her toxic ass.

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I would not accept the gift. In fact, I would block her phone number. It is quite clear that she’s toxic just as much as her son is. ￼ if you accept this gift, you must be prepared for her to try being more in your daughters life. I personally would not feel comfortable allowing someone in my life who victim blames. It’s a person you can’t trust. ￼I don’t think it’s right for her to get a gift for one child and not the other either. Is your son his son also?￼

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This is a tough call but she may be trying  to reach out and make amends. It's Christmas after all.

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Accept it but don’t give it to your daughter, save it until she’s old enough to understand the situation better.  That’s what I did when my daughters’ father was absent but would have people mail gifts to them.

Should I accept a gift for my daughter?

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