READ PLEASE-for those who coparent, is it reasonable to reschedule visitation for the dad if you yourself are sick w a stomach bug?

I’m currently laying in bed with my 3y/o and 3m/o in survival mode with horrible body aches after throwing up all night/morning. I can barely function and I have zero help. I’m only getting up to tend to their needs. Otherwise we are hunkered down for the day.

My 3m/o dad and I just agreed on a visitation schedule of

Tues & thurs 6p-730p

Sun 1030a-1230p

Visits are shorter because he’s so young and still breastfeeding, and also supervised at his sisters home because there are major concerns regarding the safety of his home and I don’t want to allow that until we have a 3rd person perspective on the situation (mediator). Otherwise I’d feel like a horrible mother. There’s no official custody order in place and we were never married. I had a friend tell me it’s unreasonable for me to not allow parenting time if my older son is sick, which makes sense.

My question is, is it unreasonable to reschedule when I myself am sick? It’s one thing if I just had a cold but this stomach flu knocked you on your behind for a couple days. I’d hate to get his niece and their family sick.

And if you made it this far, would it be dumb to allow said rescheduling to be Saturday at his home with his mom present? I trust her but not him, his roommate, or gf ...so I’ve been adamant that she can come to our house (he’s not welcome) to see our son or we could meet at a public place or his sisters because I feel like it would look bad on me if I were to allow him over there with the concerns I have.