He wants me to carry his child but...

So my boyfriend wants him and I to try to conceive a baby starting next month..

My issue is, I have a 6 year old with my ex. And swore my next child would be planned with my husband. Well I told my boyfriend I would like to be married before we try to have a child together. To me that makes sense and both are big commitments. He states he wants to be moved away and established elsewhere together before getting hitched, but has full intentions of making me his wife.

Now he’s upset bc I feel things are trying to happen in wrong order. We don’t get pregnant, find a place to live and work in another state, THEN get married. I need a sense of security, even if it’s just a tittle and a piece or paper, that’s how I feel. You can get a divorce if it doesn’t work out, but a child is a life long commitment.

I’m just trying to do things right this time. I love him more than I could ever express and I know he loves me too. I just feel like I need some outside opinions on the situation, and maybe a better way to approach him with logical facts. I don’t have a need for a wedding or big rock on my finger ( though I wouldn’t complain if that happened). We both are almost 30 and have known each other for 2.5 years and together for a year.

I don’t get his reasoning behind baby, move, then get married.. also, me moving across the United States without reasoning like, “husbands job” is not easily done with previous court agreements with my daughter and her dad. If he wants a baby, I want his last name. Is that wrong? How do I get him on the same page?

Help me guys ❤️