Does anyone else

Wonder how you survived growing up?

I know obviously my brother and I grew up fine and we survived and all and maybe I’m being too something but I watch my mom with my daughter and I think how the heck did we live through that!?

We were at the extended family Hanukkah party and my mom does her thing and sort of snatches my daughter away (babygirl is just about 9 months old) and I see my moms not paying attention and my daughter grabs a tortilla chip from the coffee table.

So I say ‘hey Ma, please don’t let her eat that tortilla chip in her hand’ and she goes ‘oh haha didn’t even notice she had it’ and went back to her conversation and the baby took huge bite of the tortilla chip plus was reaching for the wine glasses and knives that were on the table and so my husband took her and then my mom goes ‘wow it’s like you guys don’t trust me with her or something’ ...even though she babysat her the day before🙄

It’s just hard because she makes it hard for me to ‘mom’. When we’re together she always comments on every little thing I do in relation to my daughter.

For instance, my daughter will make a sound like ‘eh’ and it’s this frantic and somehow accusing ‘what’s wrong? Is she hurt? What did you do? What did she do? Does she want me? What does she want? Is she hungry? Is she tired? Does she want to nurse?’ Like rapid fire can’t even respond.

Or she questions every single decision I do. She doesn’t like that my daughter is vaccinated and does her darndest to make me feel like the worst person on the planet. She also makes her comments on my ability to let my baby cry because ‘babies in Japan don’t cry because their every single need is being met’ over things like me not letting her touch outlets..(our outlets are covered but she still finds her way towards one and I still don’t want her to touch them).

I also apparently feed her too much/I don’t feed her enough. I’m too strict/I’m too relaxed. I do too much with her/I don’t do enough. I need to let the baby make her own decisions/I need to make decisions for her..

It’s this never ending constant beratement that I can’t do anything right and it’s simply exhausting and it makes me wonder how I survived.

Anyone else?