Am I being too sensitive?

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My husband and I have a two year old daughter and just found out we are having another little girl in June - we are so excited! We decided to keep the sex of the baby to ourselves for now but started telling friends and family we are expecting. The first thing out of half their mouths is “we hope your husband gets a boy!” One of my best friends who just had a son (her only child) went on a huge rant about how boys love their mothers more and are so much sweeter and cuter and she hopes I can experience having a boy because it’s so much more amazing. My husband and I would have been thrilled either way I have NOTHING against sweet baby boys I love my four nephews and friend’s sons... but we were so happy to hear baby is healthy and that we were getting another daughter. I honestly don’t want to tell people now and don’t get why everyone seems to care so much when we don’t. It’s also making me self conscious that my husband is secretly disappointed when I really truly in my heart know he just cares about baby being healthy but since these reactions I feel... guilty? Am I just being too sensitive #hormones lol?

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Ignore those people. Continue to be happy your baby is healthy. And just tell those people you will be happy with a healthy baby no matter what. 
And idk where this whole *boys are always closer*. I have lots of girl cousins and friends who were very close to their mothers. 
Besides *a son is a son until he takes a wife, but a daughter is for life* 🤣🤣🤣 you can tell those people that if they get all terrible about little girls to you! Lol

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I’m dealing with that too! We are having our fourth boy in June and not many people know we are expecting and the ones that do when we told them it’s a boy they make comments like “guess you’ll have to try for a girl next time” or they look at my husband and say “don’t you know how to make a girl?” or the one that hurt the most came from my aunt who said “I’m sorry it’s a boy. We all wanted a girl” I simply just say “we aren’t having anymore children and love all four of our boys” it really make me wish we wouldn’t have told anyone at all because now they hurt me and my husbands feelings and took a little bit of the excitement we have away 😔

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People suck for sure. This is my first but people already want me to "want" one over another. We worked so hard to even get this far and I'm planning the same amount of frilly things and monster trucks no matter what we have, so I don't know why it would matter.

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I’m kinda dealing with the same thing. I’m 14 weeks pregnant,but we decided not to find out the gender. Because of this exact reason! We already have a 5 year old daughter and we were excited when we knew she was a girl, but boy his family really wanted a boy! Like that’s all they can talk about now. I hope y’all get that boy! And boy this and that. So I decided to do us all a favor and not find out the gender! But don’t take it hard on yourself we have absolutely no control over the sex of the baby. Congratulations to you guys! ￼

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Honestly, I think that most of the insensitive and rude comments come from a place where people are trying to secretly validate how they THINK the parents feel about gender. (That's just my personal and completely unfounded opinion though!) My SO's family was rooting for a baby boy right out of the gate. He was too, if I'm completely honest. We found out with NIPT that we're having a girl! Thankfully, no one made any insensitive comments about the gender once we knew what we were having. 
I would probably emphatically declare that you're over the moon about this baby being a girl and say that this couldn't be a happier arrangement whenever someone makes comments. If they continue, then I'd definitely let them know how badly it comes off. Asking people why they feel that way is often enough to shut them up. Honestly, most people just like to hear themselves talk and rarely think about the impact of their statements. Reminding them that what they say has a very real effect on how others feel often does the trick.

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I’m a mom of three girls (we don’t know baby #4 gender yet) and I do really get annoyed when people say how much better boys are then girls. Don’t get me wrong I would like #4 to be a boy (my husband wants another girl lol) but I want a boy so I can at least have a little boy, not because boys are in any way better then girls. Girls are great too. I love playing dollies and barbies with my girls, we love playing dress up and painting our nails together. Honestly girls are so amazing.

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I seriously hate comments like that! We have a daughter at the moment and don't know what #2 is yet. But my cousin's husband kept making comments on Christmas Day that "only (my husband) would be unlucky enough to have two girls" and things like that. So then others were all laughing and joining in. We'd both honestly be thrilled for another girl and really just want a healthy baby!

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If you don't want to hear the negative comments, pretend you didn't find out the gender until birth 🤷🏻‍♀️ I doubt very many people will have rude things to say once baby is already here.

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Oh man I feel you. My MIL (who had only boys and always wanted a girl) when we found out it was a girl, we made a little reveal for the grandparents, she already has a grandson and me and my husband thought she would be thrilled that we are Having the first girl of the family. 
Her first words after learning it was a girl “I wanted a boy”
Then she made the comment again “we wanted a boy but that is ok”
I can’t help but be mad at her, people need to learn to share our happiness or just keep quiet.
People can be awful, but just enjoy your pregnancy, you baby is lucky to have you.

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You’re not being overly sensitive — I’d feel the same. Especially, to be honest, about the boys love their mothers more nonsense. No offense to my husband but, and he knows this, my daughter loves me in a way that is more primal and deeper. Who does she want when she’s tired, sick, hungry, scared? Mama. I think that’s how it is for most moms. Nothing to do with the gender. We are not finding out the sex this time. But last time we found out and the only person I told was my mom (because like many daughters my mom is my BFF!! Like someone else said, daughters are for life! 🥰🥰🥰). I just didn’t want any commentary. Sad that I felt I had to do that. My husband wants another girl, which to be honest makes me love him a little more than I already do. I wouldn’t blame him for wanting a boy but IDK it just makes me happy that he simply doesn’t care about having a son. Meanwhile, I truly do not care. I think everyone has a right to their own preferences, desires, feeling etc. about their children. I just don’t get why OTHER PEOPLE think that they have the right to the same things about YOUR kids. Baffles me.

Am I being too sensitive?

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