My husband left for deployment at the beginning of December. We had been through one deployment together beforehand, just as boyfriend and girlfriend, and it was hard. We got married a few months after he came back, and we’ve been married for a little over a year since. Now, he’s deployed to the border. I was holding onto the hope that our relationship wouldn’t be as strained as the first time he deployed because we were in the same time zone, so we could hopefully talk more. Well, around two weeks ago he failed his PT test. The day after christmas, he told me all these things about me that are causing him to not see me in his future. I don’t have a license, I have a basic nanny job that doesn’t pay well, and before he left, we had infertility issues. But all of that aside, I thought we were happy. As the days went on, he’s said things to me like “I don’t love you enough” or “I don’t see a future with you anymore” and that he thinks he doesn’t need me. I’m worried because we have eight more months to go and I don’t know how long I can sit here in limbo and not knowing if I’ll be starting my divorce in August. I don’t want to get a divorce, and he knows this. I love him with my whole heart, but he says this isn’t about love, it’s about doing what’s best for his future. I’m just hurt and I don’t know what to do.