Boyfriend and I have been together since August. This is the third time in 3 years we've dated. He's my best friend. Literally been there for me through it all.

Yet again.. here I am feeling the same things I felt last time we broke up. 😕

He's the best best friend anyone can ask for. I love laughing with my best friend, having him to talk to about anything. My kids love him cuz he's a giant loveable teddy bear. He's finally kept a job while we've been together and so is helping with bills. (We live together)

Yet the same feelings have been creeping back in the last 2 months. He's slacked off and back to almost acting like a bachelor again as far as not helping out with stuff and sitting around focusing on video games and spending money on what he wants. Our sex life has been dead ever since we got back together. I've tried spicing it up, adding in toys and bds stuff. But I don't want to have sex with him anymore. I've tried forcing myself to but mentally I'm not pleased.

What is wrong with me? Why can't I be happy living with my best friend? Is it possible to have a best friend but not be able to live with them as a spouse?

Add on: I have been stressing out for days, so bad over the thought of us not being together and also the thought of feeling this way long term.

Should we try couples counseling?

I thought best friends made great partners. I thought you were supposed to marry your best friend.

I hate feeling this way. I do love him 😔