Worried vent

Anyone else worry that people will betray your wishes? I know many women worry of their MIL, for me it’s my step-mother.

Just the other day, I told her I am not a hugger so she says “well I’m gonna do it anyway” and hugs me.

It got me thinking of what will happen when I tell her not to kiss my daughter on the mouth. I really worry about her going against all my wishes. Even my MIL agreed not to let anyone kiss the baby, and that we need alone time with the baby when she’s born but I know my dad and his wife will expect to have my daughter everyday and for overnights. They even tell me how I’m going to be calm and allow her to go for sleepovers and this and that, almost telling me what I will do just because my nieces mother doesn’t allow sleepovers and didn’t allow photos for 2 years. I told my dad just the other day I want my daughter to have limited time with my step sister just because of the drama she’s involved with and her need to smoke pot every 20 mins and he got offended lol. Like sorry, I want my kid to turn out better than the way my siblings and step siblings turned out 🤷🏼‍♀️