No, that’s not what I meant at all!

My friend and I were talking about my birth control and she’s pregnant, and she told me that I should get pregnant too. Forgot to add it’s not the first time she’s said it, and I think it’s because she wants to share the experience with someone.

Okay first of all, I’m very poor. Not in a good place, do not have the means to support a child. I have to scrounge for change to put gas in my car. I barely have money to properly feed myself much less a child. So for me to intentionally get pregnant would be incredibly selfish of me. So I told her that, and the thing is she’s not in a better situation than I, but she did not get pregnant on purpose. It was an accident and you know, things happen sometimes and birth control fails or maybe you just had a really stupid moment we all do but that’s not the same as being in the situations that we are in and purposely making a baby. I never meant it to come across as “you’re selfish for being pregnant” because that’s how she took it.

I explained all of this to her and she’s still upset. I have supported every choice she’s made and I’ve been there through everything thus far. pregnancy is making her very emotional so I don’t know if it’s just that or if I was careless with my words.