Helpppppp

I have a 13 months boy and he wont do anything by himself😩 he always wants to be held, he won’t eat by himself unless it’s something he likes. Most of the time i feed him while i chase him around the house or when he’s on the floor playing with his toys. He’s been like this since he started eating but now its worse because he doesn’t like sitting in his chair. Also he cries when he’s in the car and im not sitting next to him or he wants to be held also while in the car. Ive let him cry unlit he falls asleep in his carseat because i know he’s fine and he’s fed. He won’t take his bottle unless i give it to him in my arms and most of the time i force it to him because he wont take it. Im trying to not breastfeed him much during the day anymore unless he’s super sick and wont eat anything at all. He’s super attached to me he can’t be with anyone else because he cries so much I’ve been working some nights (i babysit at night) and he stays with my husband and he doesn’t cry as much ive tried leaving him with my mom for a couple of hours and he cries until he falls asleep and wakes up crying. He wont fall asleep at night unless he sleeps in my arms and then i put him on the bed. He doesn’t let me change him because he wants to sit and play or he crawls away from me. I know part of it has been my fault because ive tried to give him the love and attention i didn’t get while i was growing up because im the oldest out of five kids with only one parent, but now i dont know where i went wrong sometimes i think he’ll grow out of it but sometimes it’s hard keeping up with him. If some of you have been through this, please tell him what you did and how did it turn out for you and you’re baby.

Please no rude comments im just asking for help