Says I should "know he loves me"

My boyfriend doesn't do anything romantic or cute, doesn't call me cute names or pretty, doesn't post me on socials (i don't care about that anyway, just throwing it in). For 3 years I've been asking him to love me the way i need to be loved. I feel most loved with verbal affirmations (my love language) and i don't think it's too much to ask for. He told me "why do i have to prove i love you, you know i do so that should be good enough" i told him there's a difference between knowing he loves me, and FEELING loved by him. He doesn't understand. This has been going on for over 3 years. Is he really just not trying or am i actually wrong? Should i just accept that he loves me and ask for nothing else? It feels like i live with a friend some times. I'm just more romantic and as i grow into a woman, I'm learning what type of love i want / need. I've changed for the better and he tells me that I'm the best and there's nothing he wants to change. I do so much, i leave him notes, i make extra snacks when i know he's having a bad day, i do try so hard. We've been together for 5 years now