Baby shower 🙄

So originally my 1st cousin offered to throw us our baby shower. We were grateful and accepted. We had a certain time frame and dates in mind and asked that she consider that. She took forever to get back to me about it and when she did she told me my dates were too early for a baby shower and that if we wanted to do it on those dates we had available that she wouldn’t be helping. So I had to rearrange our schedules to a date she wanted. Fine. At least we finally were able to get a date set.

Then it was time for her to pick a place to do it at. Everything was too expensive for her and there were no free options. I 100% understand not having all the money in the world...but what I don’t understand is why she offered to throw it for me to begin with then knowing her financial situation. I suggested to her the cheapest place possible which is at one of the rec centers in town. That was still too much for her. So my mom offered to call her and told her she’d pay for half of the cost to rent it. So that worked out. We got a place and a date set.

The ONLY thing I’ve asked for in planning all of this was that she include a diaper raffle in the shower and the info on the invites because that’s something we really want to do. Everything else I was 100% fine with her planning and doing. She didn’t like the diaper raffle idea and said NO because she thought people would be too focused on buying diapers rather than other gifts...but what she did want to do was include on the invites a request that all the guests bring their favorite baby books for the baby. I get that’s a cute/sweet thing to do but I’m sorry, I’d rather have diapers than baby books. I told her my bf and I really didn’t care for that idea. All I wanted was a diaper raffle instead of a book request. I truly don’t feel I’m asking or wanting too much. She then told me “you plan it all and I’ll just show up on the day.” That’s now the 2nd time she has threatened that she’s not going to help anymore because she can’t get her way. And that’s just the type of person she is..I knew this beforehand. But I’m tired of it.

My boyfriend and I have no problem throwing our own shower and that’s what he wants to do now since she keeps threatening not to help anymore. But now I’m considering not even having one. I’d rather spend the money we would use on a shower on actual baby items that we need. 😒 I didn’t think there would be so much drama.