Help me help him

My boyfriend is going through some rough feelings about his parents right now, and I’m offering everything I have to help. I want to go hold him and just be with him or talk or listen to whatever he has to say. I just want to make him feel better.

But he keeps closing himself off, and I know maybe he needs to work through some stuff on his own, but it’s not healthy to shut everyone out.

How do I help him if he’s not open to my help??? It’s lowkey making me feel awful, but this is about him so I can’t even tell him that because I don’t want to make his situation about myself.