I’m feeling very frustrated today. I’ve posted about my relationship once or twice on the <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android">Glow app</a> previously, and I need some advice again.

Me and my girlfriend are both BI( not out to our family’s get) and we met 3 years ago. Since then we have both had the opportunity to get to know each other’s family (under the impression that we are friends) and each other’s friend groups.

She moved here from the US and I’m in Canada. I’m still a university student and she is not.

She got here about 3 weeks ago on her work visa for the year and we decided she would stay at an Airbnb for the first month of her being here. During that time we would apartment search because I still lived at home.

It’s been stressful finding a place and we found out that we need a guarantor/ co-signer to get this apartment.

I frustrated because she has been omitting information from her family. She’s been telling her mom that she’s having trouble finding a place and that she’s staying at an Airbnb, so her mom being concerned has asked questions like “why doesn’t Jess let you sleep at her family’s home or can Jess ask her dad to co-sign” little does my girlfriends mother know that I have an extremely strained and toxic relationship with my family. I wish my girlfriend would say this to her mom instead of letting people think I’m just being an ass and that I’m choosing not to inviting her home because I don’t feel like it...

I will also mention that her mother has allowed me to stay at they’re home every single time that I’ve visited the US. I just don’t want her mom feeling like I’m rude or ungrateful because I’m not extending the same curtesy. When I’m reality I have legitimate reasons why I can’t bring her home.