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Long story short. My sister is older and told me she should be the one doing things first. She told me this while I was pregnant with my first son. At that point my boyfriend at the time and I got married after a year and a half of living and being together. We also moved out of our trailer and bought a house. My sister says what she says. Meets this guys, loves an hour away with him after a couple months, gets pregnant WHILE IM PREGNANT then leaves him. Her baby daddy hasn’t seen or heard from her since. She literally just wanted the baby. So fast forward. She had her baby 10 months ago. My husband and I have been trying for our last one, we found out before Christmas that it worked! We announced it to our family. My sister said not one word about it other than talking about herself. Not even congrats. So a month later... GUESS WHO ELSE IS PREGNANT!!! Yeah. Expects me to be happy for her and do shit for her still. Like wtf. Her boyfriend hates our family and he’s an asshole when he’s around us. Anyway. So she announced her pregnancy at 6 weeks. The day of her ultrasound. With both of our first ones we waited till 12 weeks. SHE ALREADY ANNOUNCED IT. But now I kinda feel like I don’t want to because people are going to think me and her are just in competition and take it as a “joke” and like not be truly happy for us. Does that makes sense? Thank you for taking the time to read! How would you feel?

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I would be so annoyed 😂 I'm so sorry you have to deal with that

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That’s annoying... what do you want to do as far as announcing? Maybe just wait a few months and announce when you and your husband feel ready? 
Tbh it sounds like it’s not just the pregnancy thing, your sister sounds insecure and petty just based off this alone

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Sounds like she is insecure with herself and is constantly comparing herself to her younger sister. 
I’m the oldest of 4 girls by a pretty hefty age gap and for a while I expected my closest to age younger sister to have everything before me and would always support her. We are all different people and can’t compare ourselves to each other. I ended up getting married and having children first, but there really was a period where I thought she would have it all first and it didn’t bother me at all. 
I’m sorry you have to go through that. Really I don’t think anyone would think less of you for your announcement. I’m sure that it’s clear that she’s not stable in life and you are. Enjoy YOUR happiness as you see fit. Don’t make her mistake and compare yourself. Enjoy your life 💚

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I mean I would be delighted if my YOUNGER sisters and I were pregnant at the same time, as my aunt and mom were always pregnant at the same time (5 kids) and the cousins are all super close and I loved it. It kind of sounds like you’re the one making it a competition, who cares if she slept with someone just to get pregnant- it’ll come back and bite her in the ass one day, if that was the reason. You don’t know that because you’re not her , and who cares if she announced it at 6 weeks? I didn’t know there was a rule or law saying you can’t announce before 12 weeks - guess I’ll go tell all my friends/family were sorry we told you so early. 
On that note my oldest sister (18, I’m 22) and I DO NOT GET a long. And it seems like she’s always trying to be me or do what I do. (Key word is seems) I met my hubby in highschool she had many boyfriends in highschool I got married this last summer, - so did she. I’m pregnant and she doesn’t know. But I never took it as we were competing against each other because when the day is over it’s HER life and she’s free to do whatever she feels like, and so am I.

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