This maybe in poor taste...

My ex and I have our final divorce hearing friday. I am elated! We've been separated for 2 years and we're finally finishing all this up. Do not get me wrong, I still care for my ex. He is the father of my children but I have no love for him. We're actually celebrating with cake and wine afterwards since this is something we both have wanted. There is no bad blood (for the most part). We co-parent amazingly and we only want our children to be happy and healthy.

I know a lot of people will be upset for us being happy about getting divorced. But you'll have to understand, we are happy for the end of something we no longer want. We no longer love each other and to be quite honest we should have never gotten married. We were married for almost 10 years and we weren't happy at all.

Before everyone jumps on the "then why get married, if you weren't happy?" bandwagon. We got married because at the time we loved each other and thought that the other person shared the same values we did it or would change so that we could be happy. Once we had children, we realized we had very different outlooks on our lives and our relationship crumbled and became toxic. We still care for each other. But there is no love.

Listen, marriage isnt a cakewalk, even a good marriage has its flaws. We tried everything from counseling to spiritual guidance to flat out just pretending to be happy to make it work... truth is, nothing helped and only made us angrier towards each other. Once we realized we were done with our relationship, things got so much easier.

Now, we're both happier than we were 2 years ago. I met a man a year ago that is good to me and my children. My ex has tried dating and cant seem to make it work out. I keep praying he'll find his person. That's another thing, him dating other women never made me uncomfortable or upset. That told me more than anything that we were DONE.

I just wanted to post my joy on here and let other people know it's okay. Its gonna be okay. That even when it feels so horrible right now, it will always get better. Life gets so much better when you're happier.