Okay so I’m pregnant and my morning sickness has been kicking my ass. This morning I woke up and could barely function. Well my sister dropped her 2 toddler twin boys (both are 3) off so we have my 2 toddlers, her toddlers, my baby, so overall 5 kids. They’re pretty easy to handle but you know how it is with toddlers, one cries they all cry.

Well my 4 year old knocked over a basket of dirty laundry in the room and was playing in the basket. To me, it’s not a big deal. It’s dirty clothes and they’re kids, what else do we expect? It’s as simple as picking it back up again.

Well my nephews also took their bowls of dry cereal and poured it on the floor and were jumping on it, smashing it onto the floor. So my fiancé goes in there and is yelling at my 4 year old for knocking over the laundry and I told him to stop yelling at her, because ew like stop. And that it’s laundry and if he’s going to discipline 1 child for making messes he needs to discipline them all. You can’t just discipline 1. Personally I felt he had been picking on her all morning so I couldn’t bite my tongue. He told me “well your nephews aren’t my kids to discipline” and I said that he should’ve told me then, instead of just singling out one child. We don’t spank, we do timeouts but I don’t feel any of this called for any of that. Just a simple “let’s not do that okay?” But he felt yelling was the right thing.

This is an ongoing thing here lately. My middle child, who is 2, was screaming because my nephews were hitting her. My fiancé put my daughter in time out and not the boys. When I asked why he said she didn’t need to scream like that. I’ve spoken to my sister about this and she’s said numerous times to discipline the boys because they spit, hit, yell, even at adults and they don’t listen to her but do for me. I’ve told her it’s because she’s not consistent, at my house we have a huge rule of hands to ourselves and nice words only. If you can’t behave or throw fits, you’ll sit in the bedroom by yourself until you can calm down and join the rest of us. We don’t entertain negative behavior.

Anyways, I made food for the kids for lunch and every body had a plate. My daughter had 2 bowls and was still hungry and asked for more. My fiancé got mad and told her no because “you’ve already had 2”. I got mad because I don’t think it’s appropriate. If someone’s hungry, you feed them. She’s a growing girl, and telling her “you’ve already had 2 plates” will only make her self conscious. I told him that since we had more leftovers to let her have more, there’s no need to deprive her or guilt her about it. He got mad and said I work against him all the time when he’s disciplining and saying no. But I feel he’s not appropriate and that his behavior and comments are mean and abusive and I feel aren’t supportive or sending a positive message to the kids.

My question is, am I overreacting? Because he said I’m sick and hormonal and being sensitive but I’ve always spoke out when I don’t agree with his parenting of our kids.