My baby is almost 5m, we’ve got into a pretty good daytime routine for naps and she’ll go straight to sleep for each nap but the last nap of the day she will fuss for maybe 5 minutes.

wake time between naps is 2 to 2.5 hours and same from last nap to bedtime (which we aim for between 7 & 7:30). First nap is usually about an hour, second nap is about 1.5 hours and last nap is 30-40 minutes.

But trying to get her down at bedtime can take up to 2 hours AFTER she’s been laid down and I don’t understand what the difference is? We do exactly the same routine as we do for naps except for bed we add in a bath, change of clothes a bottle of expressed milk to differentiate bed time from nap time a little.

She will scream and scream and no amount of shushing, patting, rocking etc will work until she’s exhausted herself into sleep. Then because going to bed became so hard she will wake up about midnight and we do it all over again up to 3 hours and even a feed isn’t helping.

I feel like I’m obviously going wrong somewhere but I don’t know what it is I’m doing wrong? I feel like she has a good amount of sleep in the day time, wake times feel natural as in we can see her starting to get sleepy for the next one (same with bed time) and we try to be consistent with everything we do.

She did/does have reflux and is medicated for it but as this is only a bedtime problem I don’t see how it could be due to the reflux? We do her bottle about 30 mins prior to laying her down.

I’m so tired all the time I don’t know what to do, I already struggle with PPD and every day just feels worse and worse 😔 my OH isn’t very helpful, he’s at the gym most of the time and comes back after the crying has ended.