Dry spell or should I end it?

My SO hasn’t wanted sex with me. I haven’t wanted sex with him. For a long time. Our sex is just not very good because he mainly only wants oral/69 and I want actual sex. He doesn’t touch me right even when I tell him how I like it (like hair pulling or just caressing me, he’s horrible with how he does it) he’s aggressive even when I tell him I like it gentle. I haven’t been attracted to him like how I use to be even though his looks/body hasn’t changed in years, I think it’s more emotional/mental why I’m just not attracted. He doesn’t make me feel sexy either, at all.

Last night I drank some alcohol for the first time in a long time and took him into the bedroom. We tried to have sex but I just wasn’t feeling it at all, he kind of seemed like he was fake moaning, and he kept wanting me to suck his dick in order for him to get hard. Which upset me he couldn’t just get hard without that because it’s literally been months since we’ve had sex (he didn’t drink any alcohol so that’s not why). I told him I wasn’t going to suck him and he pleaded for me to and wouldn’t finger me or anything and it was all just a big turn off and I wasn’t into any of it at all, I didn’t even want to kiss him, so I told him I didn’t want to continue and left the room.

Our relationship outside the bedroom hasn’t been good either but we try to fix our problems and get over it but I can tell our feelings for each other are just kind of dead.

I think it’s over?