Did you sleep train your babe? If so comment tips please

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My oldest I bedshared with but it was just us, and honestly he is STILL not a good sleeper at 3. My youngest is 6 months and has been a pretty good sleeper since day one. He was in an on the bed cosleeper up until a few days ago and now in the crib he won’t sleep more than 30-45 minutes for nap or bed. I would try stroking his face, giving his pacifier back, etc and eventually climb in and nurse him back to sleep then start allll over again 30-45 minutes later. I . Am . Exhausted. I need him to sleep in his crib because I want him to be used to it for when he is at his dads as his dad has an alcohol problem and I’m not sure if the courts will take it into consideration (we’ve already done mediation and the mediator disregarded it even though he admitted to having a problem) 
I need tips on gentle sleep training methods. Is the baby wise book worth reading? I have it but haven’t read it. I will NOT do cry it out. I can let him fuss a bit but there’s a line for me where they have needs and those can be met while maintaining some sort of boundary but not allowing them to become distressed. Any tips/encouragement welcome. I’m a single mom and need sleep to handle these two and to get back to work. I think it’s some special kind of messed up for mothers to be expected to work when their baby isn’t even sleeping through the night and is still nursing but that’s a whole other post.

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I did Ferber method at 8 months and it took one night. Yes she cried, and so did I lol but it still allows you to sooth baby but not pick him up. Not nearly as harsh as full blown CIO. I honestly don’t know any methods that would work where baby doesn’t cry at all. Especially if he’s already in a habit of getting the attention he wants when he cries (which is every baby lol )

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No. I don’t believe in sleep training for many reasons. 
My son is 4 and we rock him to sleep every night and put him in his bed. We have rocked him to sleep every night since he was born and will continue to do so until he tells us no.

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We didn’t sleep train until our son was one and only because he was still getting up every 2 hours. But we did the Ferber method. We let him cry for 2 minutes then went back in to soothe him (without picking him up, then let him cry for 5 minutes then went to soothe him, then 7 minutes and then 10 minutes until he’s asleep but he never made it to ten minutes! And if he woke up in the middle of the night we’d do the same thing. He was sleeping through the night in 2 days!  Currently pregnant with my second and we’ll do the same thing once this one is one years old as well.

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I did Ferber method at 5 1/2 months took three nights he’s slept 12 hours since. He goes right into his crib and goes to sleep put himself back to sleep if he wakes up during the night and it only takes a min or two

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Ferber method. Takingcarababies tips on Instagram, classes if needed. Watch wake windows and use huckleberry app to help with sweet spots for naps and bedtimes. Our LO has been sleeping 11-12 hrs for a few months no, and fourth month regression wasn't bad at all. She's now almost 7mo. Whatever method you choose, you HAVE to be consistent. Otherwise baby will get mixed signals and it won't work or will take wayyyy longer than it should.

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My daughter is 11 months and still doesn’t sleep great, but she finally made progress when I stopping allowing her to nurse to sleep. It was a very painful habit to break, I did it around 6.5 months. I made sure she was fed, but every time when she started falling asleep I popped my boob out. If she opened her eyes I gave it back, closed them, took it away. Once she stopped trying to get my boob back I’d hold her close against my body in the rocking chair and rock. I’m not going to lie, she cried, a lot, she screamed in my ear. I just kept holding her and rocking her and telling her it’s ok and rubbing her back until she calmed down. Eventually she would fall asleep on me and I would put her in bed. So I guess technology I did let her cry, I didn’t leave her alone to cry by herself, I held her and tried to comfort her in every way possible except nursing. She started sleeping longer stretches when she wasn’t nurses fully to sleep, 3-5 hours. I still let her nurse back to sleep when she wakes up at night, but not for bedtime. As of now she’s 11 months and usually only wakes up once. It took her getting older mostly.

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My son by 14 months had no clue how to self soothe because we always went to him. We never bedshared. I suggest start putting them down drowsy but not asleep.

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We bed shared for 2 months, co-sleeper/bassinet for 2 months, then sleep trained in his crib around 4.5m. we intended to keep him in our room until 6m, but he was ready for his crib. Overnight trained at 9.5m. My son doesn't (never has) responded to soothing techniques, the only thing he would respond to was breastfeeding, but it was super obvious he wasn't hungry he just didn't know what else to do. 
With my daughter (due in May), we're going to try to go straight to the co-sleeper, but will bed share if necessary, and the same plan of having her in our room for 6m unless she shows signs of readiness before then. I'm going to try to overnight train at 6m this time instead of waiting until 9.5 though.

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Whoever voted bedshare I pray their child is over 1

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Natalie Willes’ sleep training book on Amazon. It is affordable and a VERY quick read (I read it in a day). My daughter has been sleep trained since 7 months and another than a few normal regressions, she’s been an amazing sleeper. Read the reviews on the book..amazing!

Did you sleep train your babe? If so comment tips please

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