My (soon to be) sister in law seems to have a problem with my drinking. And when I say drinking I mean 1 glass of something at a family function or party. I have NEVER been drunk in front of any of my in-laws. And have never been drinking by myself. I’ve also never gotten drunk and called/text anyone in the family or made any bad decisions while intoxicated. She and my brother in law have chosen to not drink which is fine and I respect that but that’s not what I’ve chosen.

For Christmas she got me for secret Santa and got me one of those incredibly oversized bottles of wine. When I opened it I didn’t think anything of it and I smiled and said thank you. Then she proceeded to say “It was the only think I could think of that you like. - alcohol” In front of my husbands entire family. (Also shes known me for 3.5 years and I’m very open, so she should have been able to think of something else) Then we had a girls night with all my SIL and my MIL and we had mimosas. Her comment that night was “Can you even go one day without drinking?” Then last night we got together for a bonfire and my MIL made orange crushes. My husband and I each had one and when the whole family was sitting around the table eating dinner we got talking about alcoholic beverages. Someone else said that they’ve never even seen me drunk. And my (almost) SIL says “that doesn’t mean you aren’t an alcoholic. And I’m pretty sure you are. You never don’t have a drink in your hand.”

Again I truly don’t drink too much. I’ve asked my husband and he agrees with me

BUT he’s offered to talk to his brother for me about her because it deeply upsets me to think that she actually thinks I’m an alcoholic. I told him not too because I will be undergoing surgery and starting fertility treatments soon so I won’t be drinking anyway.

But how far do I let it go? I don’t think anyone else thinks that of me. In fact they don’t like her and love me, but it upsets me when she makes those comments about me in front of all my in-laws. And now I’m afraid to drink in front of her, talk about anything to do with alcohol, and offer any adult drinks at family gatherings.