Recovery after planned csection. Hubby during surgery or for recovery more needed?

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Sorry for so long but this includes background and what going on in my head to help make the decision. My 2 biggest question of you dont want to read everything.
**were you more awake/alert after a planned csection or more groggy?***
**hubby more needed during csection or recovery?*** 
Background: 1st kid was via emergency csection due to pre-e. Since it was emergency csection hubby wasnt allowed in and the pre-e meds made recovery horrible bc I couldn't stay awake more than 5-10 min at a time during the first 24 hours so hubby needed to be with me during recovery. 
This csection is planned and already scheduled for June. With the virus going on and hospital restrictions (1 support person and they cant leave, if they do, they cant come back in). We dont have family nearby for child care, but we have my oldest best friend's mom offering a playdate. I dont want to take advantage of that and have hubby at the hospital all day. But for either just the surgery or for the 3-4 hours after surgery would be helpful. I keep going back and forth about being nervous about the surgery. But I have to admit I am more concerned about the recovery since it was so poor with my first. **were you more awake/alert after a planned csection or more groggy?**** my biggest question come to mind. Bc altho I would love him there during the surgery, my mind keeps going back to what if I needed him to help me with the newborn after the surgery bc I was super groggy?important note, he doesnt have a preference. He isnt fond of the surgery itself but he will go to support me (I think it kinda weird him out even tho he doesnt have to see anything). He is also fine just coming for a few hours after surgery as well if I think it would be more helpful. So pretty much he is leaving this up to me. Thoughts, stories, tips are helpful.

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Planned c section at 34 weeks! Surgery itself was relaxed and amazing. Post surgery I felt like I was on crack. 😂 so much adrenaline! Baby went straight to Nicu as expected so in recovery I was just talking a million miles an hour and pumping. I stayed on top of my pain medication every 4 hours like clock work. My baby was in NICU for 25 days so I went home without her. My husband took two weeks off to help me and it was very much appreciated. By day 10 i felt 80% back to normal.

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I had an emergency c section with my first also. Terrible traumatic experience that made me go into this scheduled c section (on Friday 5/8) with a lot of anxiety and fear. 
After my first, I didn’t wake up for several hours from the anesthesia. When I woke up I was confused and groggy and pissed off that everyone was telling me the baby was mine when I swore I was still pregnant. I couldn’t hold her for a couple hours after I woke up and it was just really messy. 
This time, I stayed awake during the procedure. I NEEDED my husband there. I don’t do surgical/medical smells and sights and whatnot well so I needed him there to remind me to stay awake not just for my experience, but for him to see the birth of one of his children. It was also nice having him there as comfort in a room of people who are trying to work on you quickly and swiftly but you don’t know them from Adam. I got to hold baby as soon as he was taken out and do skin to skin almost the entire rest of the surgery. It was beautiful. I was crying, my husband was crying. Everything was so beautiful about it. After the surgery they wheeled me back to my room where I started nursing immediately and taking care of my son. My husband was a huge help with getting things I needed, timing my nursing, completing the log, changing diapers, helping post circumcision, etc. The food staff would come in and set down the tray and he’d bring it to me and set everything up so I didn’t have to move around much. He was a HUGE help. 
I was not groggy after surgery this time, I felt very present and alert. I just couldn’t feel my legs 😂 
Good luck momma!

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We have the same situation. We are planning on having my husband there during surgery, the post op before I am released to my room and for the first night. After that he is going home to be with our youngest.

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I would pick the surgery 100 percent.  I was terrified and needed my husband there to stare at the whole time for support.  
After the surgery the nurses are awesome and can help you.  I was also up and about pretty fast, you won’t be completely bed ridden.
In the moment I kept saying “I’m not even out of it or anything” but looking back I was definitely groggy and loopy and that should have been a red flag. 😂
Good luck with whatever you choose! C section really isn’t that bad. There are pros and cons to any form of delivery.

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I would pick recovery honestly. I’ve had 2 c sections 2016 and 2018. My hubby was with me for the first but not the second. I honestly felt really comfortable with the nurses and doctor. They gave me extra attention because I was alone and it was 100% fine. Even though I did have a complication with the second, for me hubby was more useful in recovery. 
I will add my husband was also with me for a vaginal birth in 2013 and he was traumatized. I give him a hard time for being such a wimp about it but he would never witness another vaginal birth in his life, if he had a choice ;)

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Will he be ok missing the birth of his child again?  Knowing this time he can be there? A planed c section (at least for me was a lot better recovery then the emergency ) you will have all the nurses help while you are in the hospital as well. So I think it really comes down to what he wants. If he wants to be there I could not deny my husband that. Talk it over with your friends mom. I’m sure she is offering because she knows how much it means to have your husband with you. Good luck

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100% agree that he should be there for the birth. I had the same situation as you with a first born emergency c section and a 2nd planned c section. My husband was there for the birth the second time and it was incredible. I had horrible itching from the anesthesia for the 24 hours after but I still took care of her which he slept in the corner lol. So point is that having him there for the birth is such a special experience you will never forget. And everything after that is great but the nurses will absolutely be there to help.  Good luck mama!!!

Recovery after planned csection. Hubby during surgery or for recovery more needed?

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