How to refind attraction for my spouse

Little back ground story my husband and I been married since May 8th 2017, we have 2 beautiful babies. We have had ups and downs. For a while now I have lost attraction for my husband, when it comes to tough kissing and sex I don't have any interest. We are extremely young he's going on 24 I just turned 23. Its really hard for me find attraction and I don't know why. When it comes to sex I can't get wet i believe i can't get wet for other reason (birth control and different medications) but when I watch porn I get wet so I know its not those two things. I don't know whats wrong with me our sex life used to be wonderful and I want that back fast! But I just don't know how. I talk libido pills to get wet and use coconut oil for lube. But I don't want to use those things I want it just to happen naturally. What can I do to get back to that point? We have date night at home (strip uno, drunk jigga or strip jigga watch movies etc....) it's just not doing it for me! Sounds crazy I'm used to aggressive sex (not beating my ass sex lol) but just a little rough and he's not like that at all and when I tell him how I want it feels forced. Idk idk idk I'm losing my mind but I want sex so bad but it's just not working with him and I. What else can I do? Any advice. Please help.