Am I wrong for feeling hurt?

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My mom won’t stop mentioning my weight. I’m 21 and I still live at home while going to college. By mentioning my weight, I mean making around 15 comments per day about it. Saying I could look so good if I lost weight, my weight is getting out of hand, saying I’ve let myself ago, asking how much weight I think I’ve gained over the years etc. when I make it obvious I’m uncomfortable with the conversation. I am obese but I already know this and I don’t need her mentioning it every second. I weigh over 200 lbs so she is right but I just want her to stop. She is overweight herself and I wish she’d focus on herself instead of constantly talking about me. One time she even told me if my boyfriend tells me he doesn’t care about my weight, he’s only saying that to make sure I’m not able to get anyone else better than him and that he probably likes that I’m heavy so I can’t find anyone else. Am I wrong for feeling hurt by this?

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Completely not judging, just asking for clarity on the situation: have you ever flat out told her to stop, that it's actively hurting you, and she's making it worse, not encouraging? Do you only hint or have you flat out told her to stop?

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Not at all! No offense.. but.. FUCK YA MOM

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My family is the same way and by family, I mean my mom and brother. Before I got pregnant I was 120 lbs, I gained 40 during pregnancy and 20 more because of birth control. I was 180 for years and they’d always make comments about my weight. I never understood it because they weren’t fit either. One time my mom and brother were talking about my cousins mom and how apparently she’d tell them to eat herbs so they wouldn’t get “fat” and my brother flat out said “maybe we should tell her to give kathy some so she can lose some weigh”. I felt like SHIT. Eventually my sister got me into keto and I lost 30 lbs. I’m not where I wanna be, but it’s a difference. After losing my weight, they both told me to not lose anymore because I was looking sick. Moral of the story, fuck what anybody says about your weight. They’re never gonna be happy. As long as you’re happy with yourself, thats all that matters. People are gonna talk and talk. They might even by like my family, if you tell them that it hurts you, they won’t care, but YOU do YOU! I’ve realized this after I lost the weight. I could careless now. Some people just don’t understand that others have feelings too.

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My moms done this to me my whole life too. It hurts and makes me cry. she won’t stop

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Shit i meant to click no! No you are not wrong to feel upset. 
She really should mind her business, her bringing up your weight so much is so unhealthy, really for both of you!
She must not know how many people suffer from disordered eating or eating disorders- which are much worse than just being overweight. Yoyo dieting is also very risky, healthwise. 
Your mother probably has very unhealthy views, and she is most likely suffering from disordered eating as well, and bad body image. 
It would be very sad if she pushed you into thinking the same way. But you don't have to listen to all that garbage. You are fine as you are and your health and dietary choices are 100% your choice, your journey, and your business!!

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Draw clear and firm boundaries with her… Tell her that it hurts when she says things like that and you need her to stop making comments about your weight ￼because it’s putting strain on your relationship with her. No you’re not wrong at all. Constantly commenting on your weight is really rude and hurtful.￼￼

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Tell her flat out that you don’t like it and it hurts your feelings. When I was in high school my mom would make comments like that and one day in particular she just kept going on and on and I was already having a bad day because of school. I just broke down sobbing and told her that her comments about my weight are the reason why I’m insecure and why I hardly eat anymore that they hurt me and she’s being very mean. She hasn’t made anymore comments about my weight since then and will go in on my sisters if they dare to, I’m 24 now 🤷🏽‍♀️

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No you aren’t wrong. She’s an ass. I’d tell her that unless it’s her weight, it’s not her business. But really you could go about it two different ways. You can sit her down and have a conversation about whether she’s worried about your health or not, but tell her the comments she makes only make things worse and you feel very defeated by her constantly mentioning. Or you can retaliate which is probably what I’d do tbh lol. I’d take an insecurity of hers and highlight it until she feels the same way.

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My mom was the same way. My mom is very physically fit and me not so much. Ive tried multiple times to lose weight but it does not come easily for me at all. Honeslty the only thing that ever stopped her was when i first got on my own i didnt talk to her other than holidays for like 3 or 4 years

Am I wrong for feeling hurt?

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