“Friend” knew I was amidst committed to a mental hospital but wished my cat well

Maybe one of you read my story “lost a friend I guess” but that post adds a lot of context about who this person is and why I feel the way I do. But she was a friend of 7 years. I considered her my best friend for around 6 years. In October-February, I hit a really bad low point in my depression and became increasingly suicidal. She knew about it and never reached out (which made my depression even worse). In February I was sent to the ER and PECd for telling my counselor I almost killed myself the week before. I managed to get out of it by scheduling an emergency appointment with a psychiatrist but was in the ER for a good 6 hours. Our mutual friend was there for me at the hospital and then told her what happened and the manner of how I tried to kill myself. Despite expressing concern about me to our friend, she still never communicated with me. I was always there for her when she said she was depressed.

It’s been 3 months since then. The other day I found out her cat died. She was really close to the cat and grew up with it. I felt for her because I also have a cat like that. And something told me to show her what you’re supposed to do when someone is having a hard time in their life. I wanted to tell her sorry for her loss. I got a lot of advice not to do it, but at this point In my life I’m strong and I could handle it; I wasn’t really even expecting to hear back. I just wanted to kill her with kindness and be the bigger person. I couldn’t be the bad guy in her story because I did reach out despite that energy not being returned.

So I said “I saw your post about your cat. I know she meant a lot to you and I’m sorry for your loss” to which she responded “thank you you’re one of the few people who knew how much she meant to me. Hope your cat is doing well.”

Maybe it’s sweet to some reading this. And I think a part of me thinks it’s nice. But a bigger part of me thinks it’s laughable that she knew I could’ve been dead 3 months ago, but she hopes my cat is doing well. She could’ve sprinkled in a “you” in that sentence but no. Strictly on the cat. I didn’t respond to her because it’s a lost cause. Now I’m left to wonder what to do social media wise, if I should tell her how I’m feeling or just cut her out with no explanation. She kind of cut herself out 7 months ago. I just can’t be bothered with one sided friendships any longer (my other post details that side more). I want more than the bare minimum now.

What are your thoughts