Anorgasmic ?

Hi ladies, I really need different opinions or to hear other people’s stories on this topic.

So when I was about 19 or 20 I started masturbating with a vibrator. I was really sensitive at the time but later become desensitized. I still orgasm and cum but it’ll take a while longer now. I think I masturbate anywhere from not at all to 3 times a week. The problem is I can only orgasm from using my vibrator. I’ve had sex with 4 people in my life but I’ve had sex hundreds of times and I haven’t orgasmed more than 5 times within all those times. I’m sufficiently stimulated and comfortable all the things you need for an orgasm but it just doesn’t happen. I also cannot feel when I cum often my partner would tell me afterwards and that’s how I would know. Is that normal not to feel when you cum/ start creaming?

Because I came does that mean I orgasmed?

I also have a hard time getting wet. Doesn’t matter how stimulated I am I struggle to get wet. Rarely I’m soaking wet randomly.

Sometimes it affects my sex life and relationship because my partner feels like he’s not preforming well enough to satisfy me. We’ve been together for 4 years.

Personally I think I have situational anorgasmia.

What do you ladies think? Thanks for taking the time and reading.