Cheating... kinda long

My dad confided in me the other day. My dad is great, he is very kind, loving, and just all around a good guy. He has bought me a car, he just paid to have my truck completely done *brand new tires, oil change, bought new everything for it* anytime I need something or just someone to talk to he has always been there.

Oct 2013 he got married to his now wife after a year of being together, she was toxic we could tell. When we told him he shouldn’t get married so soon that he should get to know her more but he didn’t listen and got married anyways.

Well not too long later we find out she is an alcoholic and a mean alcoholic, he bends over backwards for her and she treats my dad like shit!. He has dealt with it for so long, he moved to a different state away from his family to be closer to hers (who she doesn’t even get a long with).

7 years later they are still together

He came to surprise his mom who he hasn’t seen in over 2 years for Mother’s Day. He went out and got her a brand new oven since hers has been broken for months now, he also bought her more food and went out of his way to pay her bills.

Well his wife had a problem with it she has her way of showing it without actually saying anything which was pissing me off because this is his mother he is taking care of...

Well anyways she is so ungrateful, she has been wanting a Iwatch for a while now so for Mother’s Day he went out and bought her one and all she did was shrug her shoulders and say “ok, thanks”, he bought her flowers and her response was “what am I suppose to do with these!?” Like wtf?!

My dad still complains about the same shit since day one😒! I’m in California and he now lives in Nevada has for the last 4 years. As he was getting the tires put on my truck he looks at me and asks “does Liz ever mention us fighting a lot or not getting along recently or kinda distant?” I respond “yes she’s mentioned it” and he says “cause I have been she’s been drinking, getting shit faced and when she does she becomes a raging bitch” which we all already knew since we met her. He says “sometimes I feel if I was to talk to someone on the side she wouldn’t even care”.

I said “yea she would, if you feel like doing that then just leave if you’re not happy”, he’s like “I can’t break her heart” and I responded “if she ever found out you were cheating on her you would break her heart even more”. Time went on and we started talking again, he goes “yea like I said I don’t think she would care if I talked to someone else... cause I am”.

I just looked at him “are you serious?!” He’s like “Ericka, when you are with someone that doesn’t care about you, doesn’t show any kind of appreciation for the things you do and someone else’s shows you the attention you start leaning towards them”. I still don’t think it’s right! I said “that is wrong you know it’s wrong!” He says jokingly “why can’t I have the best of both worlds” which joking or not made me very disappointed in him. I said “you know what you are doing it wrong, and something you need to fix now, either cut that other girl off or leave Liz don’t do this it isn’t right”.

He agreed and said he isn’t talking to the other girl in a sexual way, he’s just talking to her and when I asked who she was he said she is a truck driver and he fixes her turck.

I said “you know if she finds out you are talking to her” and he says she knows they talk but Liz thinks it’s just strictly work stuff and not other things like about their personal life, he says Liz has guy friends she talks to so it’s ok to have girl friends he can talk too. I told him there isn’t a problem with him talking to other girls unless he is expecting more from them.

I’m just really disappointed in him and really wish he wouldn’t continue with it and I know it’s his life blah blah blah. I just didn’t know my dad would be the type of guy to cheat even if it isn’t sexual cheating.

Edit: to be clear he has not gone out and physically cheated on her. He txts the girl but has done nothing physical so don’t get mixed up