Is your spouse having a secret “plutonic friendship” considered cheating?

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I had no idea this girl even existed and they only message on Snapchat when I wasn’t around and it went on for I guess two weeks or so talking a few days a week. He admitted to thinking she’s attractive (creepily looks super similar to me) and easy to talk to. Is this cheating?

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Anything in secret is a red flag

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I guess it depends on what your definition of cheating is. Some people regard it as physical actions only, others include emotional intimacy too. 
For me, it sounds like he’s crossed the line by keeping it from you, but I wouldn’t regard it as actually cheating.

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If it’s not cheating yet, it has a lot of potential to be cheating soon.

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The fact that he’s hiding it screams red flag to me.

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This is not okay, just the fact he talks to her when your not around? And you don't know who she is? What the hell do you think this leads up to? Even if he's not cheating yet, I promise you this will lead to more.

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I don’t know if I’d call it cheating, but it’s definitely not okay! If he felt the need to hide it from you then he knows what he’s doing, or thinking of doing, is wrong.

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Nothing wrong with your spouse having a platonic friend - but having a SECRET platonic friend is completely different. Sounds sketchy to me.

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My husband has female friends he keeps in contact with. He doesn’t keep it a secret. If he’s hiding it from you, it probably means he’s doing something he shouldn’t be

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“cheating is anything you or your partner wouldn’t do in front of the other” he’s only texting her when you’re not around, i’d consider that cheating

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I would NOT Be ok with this

Is your spouse having a secret “plutonic friendship” considered cheating?

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