I just need to rant! So today marks me knowing I’ve been pregnant for roughly five days now. I told my mother first then my partner’s parents and today I told my father. My mom and father do not have a positive relationship what so ever. She still holds resentment because he left her when I was a baby. So when her and I were talking about baby showers and gender reveals she said that I’d have to chose between him and his family going or my mom and my step dad going. Well I can understand part of me cannot. These events arent about you and your feelings they are about YOUR GRANDCHILD AND YOUR DAUGHTER and celebrating them. Keep in mind this is the first grandchild for both sides. I cannot even begin to understand this. Her feelings are definitely valid when it comes to not wanting to talk to him or be near him. He was a shitty father, in and out of my life, etc. But you would think we could push it aside for a baby. They don’t have to be bffs. I don’t even care if she talks to them. I just want to have them all together to celebrate my baby.

I think its unfair and selfish.

Am I wrong?