So I found out my husband has been texting his ex gf (we live in USA she lives in U.K.)

And he was telling her he misses her and wishes she was me. And he doesn’t want me , he wants her.

And obv she sent me all the screenshots because she doesn’t want him and thought I should know cos we been married 5 years with two toddler girls.

I left home that same morning cos I had to take my girl to get bloodwork done and stayed at my moms all day. He woke up in the afternoon and saw no one was home, he knew I found out. He started calling me and texting me acting like he’s worried where the kids are. And even tho I was gonna come home I told him I’m not coming . Then he started saying “sorry” like it’s nothing “sorry it’s not like I actually cheated on you” THAT IS CHEATING ENOUGH.

If my mom had space in her house I would’ve stayed there for a few days but she has 4 adult kids in the house so I couldn’t did not ask to stay.

Anyway before I came home I let him know that he isn’t sleeping on my bed . I don’t want him near me . And don’t even say my name in your trash ass mouth.

So I came home around 10pm that night and none of us said anything . I had brought food my mom gave me and put it out on the table if he wanted to eat or whatever

Then took a melatonin and went to sleep with my kids

I woke up at 4am to pee and saw that he didn’t touch the food (he didn’t eat all day) and instead he ate ramen . And he was asleep on the couch , no pillows or sheets or anything. I didn’t say anything I just went back to sleep.

I hate how I feel bad for treating people like shit even tho HE DESERVES IT SO MUCH. He always fucks up and does this to manipulate me. Was I wrong to tell him to sleep anywhere else but in my bed ? Or not to tell him to eat?

And I know I need to leave , and I will. I will take the steps and get a job , have a income and leave .