Do you agree with my thoughts or am I being dramatic ? *Long post*

My dad has been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember, at least for 7 years. He also shows traits of a narcissist and is emotionally and verbally abusive. He bullies everyone. He talks badly to family about us but then tells us “everything he does is for us”. He’s stolen over $6,000 from my brother when he was 15-16 working at a sonic drive-thru. He has a pattern of having a big blow up over something small, then the next day or so he plays up a sad act, then sometimes it’ll be calm for a little bit but other times he goes right back. It’s been like this for at least 5 years. He’s crazy.

The weekend of Father’s Day usually aligns with my dads birthday. For my 4 siblings and I (I’m almost 19, the middle child, with two older brothers and two younger sisters, youngest is 10) it’s really confusing because even tho we live together, he’s never around unless it’s to have screaming matches or he talks to us for a few seconds before he goes in the garage. For his birthday this, my brother who has autism didn’t say happy birthday because he stressed over the pandemic and the BLM issues so he slept all day. So my dad gave him a hard time for the next 2 days even when my brother tried to apologize. When he was going to bed, my mom went up there and he yelled at her about it and she cried for a while. (Right now, I would say he does that to her at least 2-3 days a week.)

My brother texted him the next morning saying he hated him and hated how he treated her and tried to run away. The police caught him, thankfully. Since he’s been back, my mom thinks we should have a family talk where everyone sits down and vents their feelings. She said we have to keep trying to get through to him so he doesn’t miss out on memories. (🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️) When she brought it up, I told her we’ve been doing that forever, but it’s not our responsibility to keep trying. It’s on him. And I don’t think it’s healthy for the younger girls, as I feel it teaches them to stay through a toxic relationship. I feel like she just wants our family together, which I get, but it’s too late. And that was his choice.

When I turned about 15-16, my dad became really really toxic to me to the point it really messed up my head. He screams in my face, threatened to kill my animals, talks bad about me, etc. I’m worried about this being my little sisters’ future.

I’m worried about having my younger siblings and my brother with autism to do this because he has a pattern of fake promises and I don’t want their hearts broken. I don’t want them to think that all these things my tolerates is normal. This isn’t fair to them. I don’t even care about me, I care about them. They are such good kids and I don’t understand why my mom doesn’t realize how much better they deserve.