Is my relationship okay?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 6 months we were in person relationship, but he went into the air force so we are long distance. He is getting stationed across the globe soon and its been hard trying to keep a connection. We argued ALOT at one point and it just seemed like we weren’t getting anywhere l. Things cooled down now but it’s only because we don’t really talk and I got used to us not speaking it’s basically a hi and bye. Should I be worried that our relationship isn’t going last?

Answer

Ahhhh frick I relate to this one soooo much! 
First off, good for you for giving the whole LDR a shot. First off, it’s definitely not for everyone but you can make it work. 
I did a 1yr LDR with my marine bf and here’s the top 10 pieces of advice I have for you both: 
1- Save the different times zones (NZ and Van) in your phone so you can reference the time difference.
2-Make an effort to call/face time once a day if possible. Even if it’s only for a few minutes, a quick check in can mean a lot to eachother. 
3- Don’t hesitate to sends texts; pictures, updates, “this made me think of you”/ “I thought you would like this/find this funny” etc.
4-When you talk make sure to share highlights and lowlights of your week. Also discuss current events/other topics so you can continue to learn from eachother
5-If you know there’s gonna be a gap where contact will be limited, plan an interactive activity (preferably off your phone although Netflix can be your best friend sometimes haha) that engages you socially or physically. This helps pass time so much and you’ll be able to branch out. I cannot stress the importance of this otherwise you’ll find yourself in a dark hole.
6-Don’t play petty games; for example: “I was waiting for you to call”/“why didn’t you text me first?” This wastes time. Don’t be afraid to initiate contact.
7-Know that at some both one or both of you may become disappointed or frustrated with the situation or circumstance at hand. Remember that it’s not you vs. them, it’s the both of you against the problem.
8-Be patient and gracious. Technology or differing schedules will let you down more than once so be prepared to stay positive. 
9- It’s ok to cry/feel upset/happy/disappointed/all of the above. With long distance you will feel all the emotions at varying levels. Talk about your feelings and be open with sharing. 
10-Realize that your distance and depression is only temporary. Plan a nice date for when you get back/talk about the future so you have something really amazing to look forward to. 
Good luck girl!

Answer

I honestly couldn’t keep up with a relationship like that. I commend you ladies that do long distance.
Do you guys have an end goal? Talk about marriage or anything? Is he leaving service when his 4 years are up?
If there is no end goal I would not really see the point of having a long-distance relationship with someone. I would consider it just a waste of time and added stress and loneliness￼￼

Is my relationship okay?

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