Husband always FORGETS diaper cream

Does this happen to anyone else’s husband? My sons been fighting diaper rash almost daily since January. Every time we think it’s gone it reappears. I’ve learned maybe it’s bc I’m fighting the rash alone and my husband is fighting against me

I don’t normally check his work after a diaper change but that’s literally what it’s come to. I happened to be changing him for the pool right after hubby changed a poopy diaper the other day and not a drop of cream! So I asked him and he says he thinks he forgot 😬. It’s a given with this boys raw red ass that he gets some cream. 2 days later, he tells me he just had a giant poop and I say ok you put cream right? And no, he forgot again so I redo the diaper which my son is pissed about bc he hates diaper changes.

I can’t help but be so angry with him. Because “I forgot” means I was too busy playing with my phone or watching tv to care that I was causing the baby pain. So now I’m just trying to handle every diaper myself while also doing all cooking and most feedings bc those also aren’t my husband’s strong suits. I could give a 15 year old babysitter more responsibility for my son. My husband mostly handles playtime (which he spends on his phone as baby crawls around him) and bath time which is easy bc my son loves the bath. I’m just so tired of getting the shitty jobs and him not even appreciating getting to play with our son.

UPDATE

we use pampers baby dry. We had actually tried a few brands and this worked the best for him. Super sensitive skin and the rash is yeasty per the dr so he said it’s not contact dermatitis. Just super important to keep him clean, dry and covered in cream plus medicated cream 2x/day. One of the times we switched his entire butt was red instead of just the well...hole area lol. Afraid to make it even worse again with a new brand.

Hubby also doesn’t really give his butt time to dry well after baths, no matter what I say or do. He throws up his hands and says well what do you want me to do about it??? I think quite obviously I want you to let him dry and not cover his wet, uncreamed butt with a diaper 😩 but what do I know?

I think I’m headed for divorce bc I’m just so tired of him being the anti parent. Unfortunately the thought of him having even partial custody terrifies me. I border on helicopter mom while he borders on neglect. And the more he neglects the more I need to hover.