Am I wrong

My cousin is on her 5th baby. She has 3 girls and one boy who's the oldest. She had all of her kids back to back by different men. None of them even raise their kids. So now she's pregnant and wanting to throw a baby shower and is mad at me because I don't want to go. But she's having another girl so she should have everything she needs and she doesn't even raise her oldest. She leaves him with her grandma 10 hours away for months at a time. I just feel like she needs a reality check and I refuse to enable her with a gift