I take full responsibility.

Really long so let me apologize now.

I was with a guy for 3 years and we were just on two separate planets when it came to what we wanted. Well when I broke up with him he accused me of only doing it because I was sleeping with a coworker. The constant accusations are part of why we broke up. Well I was 18 and petty so I slept with the coworker he accused me of sleeping with. I ended up finding out I was pregnant and they changed my due date 3 times so I really thought the coworker was the dad. The coworker I slept with I was peer pressured by both families to marry because "how could a single teen mother be any good?" I had my child around the 1st due date they gave me but the coworker went on her birth certificate despite me saying no because we were married. My ex of 3 years knew he could be the dad but decided not to reach out as I was really mean to him when we split up. My child is almost 4 now and the one on my baby's birthday certificate hasn't been active since the newborn stage and hasn't seen my baby in 2 years. My ex and his girlfriend reached out to me last year but his girlfriend didn't like the idea of him having another child (they just had their 1st baby) so she made him block me which I'm not mad I understand completely. I just recently seen my exs girlfriend and their baby and our babys look just alike. The man on my child's birth certificate has 2 other kids so 3 total with 3 different moms and they just look nothing alike. I tried to get a DNA test when my ex reached out but the courts wouldn't let me because the coworker had been on her birth certificate for so long and my ex only wanted a DNA test done through court. I don't expect either of them to be involved because I created my own mess. Well now I'm married to a wonderful man which we share a child together and he's been the only daddy my oldest child knows. Since my baby was 8 months old. He knows about all that mess and doesn't judge me for what I did as a teenager as I'm now an adult and my oldest is almost 4years old. I wish he could adopt my oldest but every time we say we're going to file the papers the coworker pays like $50 in child support. Then I can no longer file abandonment and have to wait another six months of no contact until he pays that $50 again and they consider that support. He knows he might not be her dad but he was very controlling and abusive and is holding on to feel like he has some say in my life still. I just hate the fact I messed up my babys life by being a reckless teenager.