I’m a 28 year woman who has had the chance to live abroad. I’m of South Asian origin and we have a custom of listening to our parents. I grew up being the ideal obedient child. My parents aren’t helicopter parents but I did have to ask their permission every time I wanted to hang out with my friends. I understand that it’s acceptable until a certain age. Everytime i wanted to go out to my friends’ place or at the mall. My mother would say,’is it really necessary?’,’we have guests coming over’, ‘your aunts and grandparents are coming’ and mind you I didn’t have much friends and I was super shy and I really enjoyed staying home and spending time with them. As my siblings grew up, they didn’t have to ask permission that much of it they did...my siblings were able to get their way since my parents weren’t that strict when it came to them. But with me, I had to ask to go out. Even now at this age I constantly think of what could go wrong if I don’t tell my parents something or if I do something without their approval.there were times I wanted to date guys in college and university but I was constantly worried and I also have low self esteem too.

I was speaking to someone and he said I should just try to be independent and not be scared. I live alone in this country. I don’t know anyone tbh but I am still scared and anxious to travel or do something without my parents approval.

How do I overcome this? Any suggestions or ideas would be greatly appreciated and basically change my whole life.💕