Feeling down about growing a family

THIS IS A LONG ONE: APOLOGIES

So have have been with my fiancé for almost ten years, I was 16 when we started going out. When we were young pups we always spoke about having kids (always wanted three) and were so excited to grow old together and make amazing babies.

Since the age of 18 my mother in law has always pressured us into having a grandchild for her. She has always wanted a granddaughter as she already has 4 grandsons. This has been a continual thing and she talks about it to everyone we know including my side of the family.

This has put us off the notion of kids and for a good few years, I believed it. It may sound petty, but the constant pressure from my mother in law makes me not want any at all. My mother and my side of the family are gutted about our thoughts but our mother in law still talks about it as if nothing has changed.

I have told her if she could just let us grow as a couple and a family of two, maybe we would reconsider our choices down the line once we are married and have had the life we want first. This doesn’t help.

For the last couple of months I have been inspired by all of you lovely ladies and the dreams you have and it gives me second thoughts but my fiancé is dead set on not having any kids. He says he doesn’t want any kids ever. The way that our nephews have been brought up and their behaviour and temperament has majorly put him off.

What do you guys think. Any advice? Thank you in advance.

Lx